Happiness – a word we all love. I’m pretty sure the one thing everyone on this earth can agree on, is that we want to be happy. Well the one thing that I know for sure, is that we cannot find happiness alone. It is community that keeps us alive, and connection that gives us a reason to be alive. Connection is the most important component to our happiness. Would you rather be all alone blasting music, or with your closest friends hanging out and enjoying all of your favorite songs together? Now don’t get me wrong, I love having time to myself, but there should be a balance, because we all NEED to be with others; it’s crucial for our happiness.
Positive phycology expert Shawn Achor says, “Happiness is a choice, but it’s not a personal choice, it’s an interconnected one.” He is basically saying that you DO have the choice to be happy or not, but you can’t find happiness alone, choosing personal happiness involves the people around you as well. I love this idea because it gives me the sense that I’m not alone, we are all connected whether we like it or not.
Think about what makes you happy. It might be getting an A on your math test, winning first place at your soccer game, or getting accepted to your first choice college. All of these are accomplishments, but happiness isn’t about winning, it’s about choosing. Now these accomplishments will definitely give you satisfaction and pleasure, however they are unlikely to create connection – the key to happiness. What WILL give you a crazy amount of joy is creating close relationships, friendships, and connections, and being around people who uplift you, and you can uplift them. Plus, once you’re happier, your grades will become higher, you’ll play better in your sport, and you will have a much better chance of achieving your personal goals.
It’s amazing how our connection to each other can have such an impact on our lives, so go give a family member a hug or hangout with a friend, because trust me – it’s worth it.